What does it mean to be a “straight” Christian?

I met the woman of my dreams when I was fourteen years old.  We dated on and off, but after what felt like the longest seven years of my life; we finally were married in 2001.  Sometimes our life together seems like a fairy-tale and other times it has been beyond tough.

We have stuck to the commitment we made to each other in front of God and our Christian community… and I am so thankful we have continued to fall back in love over and over.  Time has flown by and now our kids are older than we were when we met.

This life of ours is good, but is this the only way a life of love can be?


I am married to a woman, but I have friends who identify as gay.  In fact, I have friends who self-identify as many things other than straight.  The
LGBTQIA community is active, is growing, and is filled with people that I deeply care about and spend time with on a weekly basis.


After years of experiencing the tension that is within Christian culture in regard to sexual expression, I felt compelled to write this article.


Before we dive in, we have to ask if my LGBTQIA friends and I agree on everything?

No, but we get along and we spend time together.  I know they feel love from me, and I feel love from them.

Are my LGBTQIA friends Christians?

Some say no, and some say yes.  The same is true for my straight friends.  Some say they are Christians and some say they are not.

Regardless of what any of my friends believe or how they identify themselves, I am there for them and I try to invest in them as any good friend would.

What about truth?

We live in a marketplace of ideas and anyone can believe whatever they want, but not everything is true.

Some people say that there is no universal truth, and that we all can decide individually what is true.  Yet, is that true?  Would that be an unchanging truth that is always true for everyone?

Saying truth is subjective, is essentially saying that those who believe in objective/absolute truth, are inherently wrong.


Claiming all truth to be subjective is an objective statement of truth, and is therefore self-refuting.

In light of seeing how illogical it is to objectively claim truth to be subjective, truth seems to logically be objective.  Fortunately, claiming all truth to be objective is not self-refuting.  In fact, the idea of objective truth is reasonable, and is able to be validated.

Do not confuse subjective preferences like your favorite flavor of ice cream as being evidence for truth being non-objective.  There is a Pop-Culture mistake that has become pervasive and the source of much confusion.  It goes along the lines of something like, what’s true for you is true, but my truth is __________ (fill in the blank).  Yes, our preferences are true for us individually, but the truth of reality outside of ourselves is absolute.  For example, evolution is either true or false regardless of our preferences.

PREFERENCE ≠ TRUTH

Another reason why we intuitively know that truth is objective has to do with discussion.  It is illogical for someone to disagree with another person if truth is subjective.  What would be the basis for the disagreement?  Why argue about anything if all truth is personally subjective?

The only basis for a reasonable/logical disagreement is if two people each believe their own conflicting ideas are objectively true.


I love my friends and family who disagree with me, but I do believe that what I hold to be true is objectively & universally true for all people.

Yikes, did I just say that?


Yes, I did just say that, and it is not a popular thing to say.  In fact, when I share the idea that truth is objective, I generally get one of four responses.

  1. People are offended personally.
  2. They start calling me names.
  3. They “Ghost” me as a friend.
  4. I am engaged in reasonable discourse.

Although reasonable discourse is the most productive, name calling tends to be more common.  Could it be that name calling is the only tool someone can use if they have no reasonable and/or logical understanding of truth?

Our feelings and preferences are so personal, so we react personally.

It is almost impossible to disconnect our feelings and preferences from our identity.  We believe that what we like and how we feel is who we are.  This is the conundrum that takes place when an objective truth claim is made.  If the claim is in direct opposition to our preferences and feelings, we feel personally attacked.  With that said, most folks who believe they are being personally attacked will respond with a personal attack.  Which shuts down conversation and destroys friendship.

At the Deep Questions Club, we have a motto; “Friends first, agreement second.”  Yet, unfortunately we have had members vilify and ghost others over a non-personal broad truth claim.


There is good news!

Many of the friends in the club that have disagreed have chosen to keep an open and reasonable discourse.  🙂

They have refrained from plugging their ears and have not yelled foul descriptors of how they see others’ character.  In fact, those who have disagreed and have chosen to remain friendly, have often times changed each other’s minds.  Myself included.

Yes, I have found that some of the things I thought were true, were in fact false.  Through friendly, reasonable discourse I have come to change my mind on many things and have come to understand the truth.  Good friends remain good friends, regardless of disagreements.  For example, my wife and I still disagree on certain things, and we’ve been married since 2001!


Choosing to follow Jesus Christ is objectively the most truthful way to live.

  1. Jesus intentionally created us.
  2. Jesus lived among us.
  3. Jesus taught us how to live on Earth.
  4. Jesus taught us how our souls can live with Him eternally.
  5. Jesus proved himself by dying in our place & rising from the dead!

We are soul and body, created by Jesus.  So, in order to live maximally in both areas of soul and body, we must study Christ and mature in His likeness.


How do we know Jesus is who He said He is?

There are so many ideas, religions, philosophies, and scientific theories, but Jesus Christ is the only true answer to the deep questions we all have.  Every answer outside of Jesus is full of contradictions, inconsistencies, and cannot meet the criteria of logic, reason, and science.

WOW!  That was a big claim, so let’s dive in and explore it.

Why is Christianity true?

We know that Jesus is the only way, because the Bible tells us that he claimed to be the only way.  (John 14:6)  Yet, two questions arise:

  1. What about all the other religions? (watch this)
  2. How do we know the Bible can be trusted?

Perhaps, you may claim the Bible is nothing more than a fanciful book of fairy-tales.  Perhaps, you don’t care about the teachings of Jesus in regard to the afterlife.

DO YOU VALUE EVIDENCE?

OR, DO YOU PREFER BLINDFOLDING YOURSELF TO THE TRUTH?


IF YOU OPEN YOUR EYES, YOU WILL SEE AN OVERWHELMING AMOUNT OF EVIDENCE THAT SUPPORTS THE AUTHENTICITY AND TRUTHFULNESS OF THE BIBLE.
  1. Atheist Archaeologists use the Bible to discover new dig sites.  Tens of thousands of artifacts have been found authenticating names, dates, and places mentioned in Scripture.
  2. The accounts of the Disciples and their eye-witness testimony is so embarrassing that it points toward the truth of the Bible.  There seems to be no attempt to create myth or legend.
  3. Non-Christian historians wrote about Jesus and his followers which verifies the details within the Biblical account.
  4. Over three-hundred ancient prophesies have been fulfilled by the historical person known as Jesus of Nazareth.
  5. Thousands of manuscripts and the Dead Sea Scrolls validate the original, unchanged text of the Bible.

Yes, we can trust the authenticity of the Bible!  In fact, I have created a five part video series that dives deeper into the above five points of evidence.  CLICK HERE TO WATCH FOR FREE


Choosing to follow Jesus Christ is, objectively, the most truthful way to live.

The deep questions of life can only be coherently answered through a Biblical worldview.

The Bible is authentic and unable to be refuted or logically denied.


The Sermon on the Mount – Carl Bloch, 1890

Now that we have a better understanding of the truth of Christ, let’s remember what he has done and let it soak in.

  1. Jesus intentionally created us.
  2. Jesus lived among us.
  3. Jesus taught us how to live on Earth.
  4. Jesus taught us how our souls can live with Him eternally.
  5. Jesus proved himself by dying in our place & rising from the dead!

We can trust what the Bible teaches.  In order to live the most Christ centered life, we must study the Word of God and mature in the likeness of Jesus.  All science, reason, logic, philosophy, and evidence points to Christianity being true.


So, what does it mean to
be a “straight” Christian?

I don’t know.  I am not a “straight” Christian.

  1. Yes, I have chosen to be a follower of Christ.
  2. Yes, I have chosen to marry one person of the opposite sex.

Perhaps, someone might call me a “straight” Christian, but that is not how I self-identify.

According to Scripture, we become new creations.  We no longer place labels or identify from a worldly point of view.  We are no longer identified by our standards, status, ethnicity, gender, sexuality, or anything other than Christ.  A true Christian is not self-identified, but Christ-identified by our new adoption into the Family of God.

2 Corinthians 5:16-17 New International Version (NIV)
So from now on we regard no one from a worldly point of view. Though we once regarded Christ in this way, we do so no longer.  Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here!

Galatians 3:28 New International Version (NIV)
There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus.

Romans 8:15-16 New Living Translation (NLT)
So you have not received a spirit that makes you fearful slaves. Instead, you received God’s Spirit when he adopted you as his own children. Now we call him, “Abba, Father.”  For his Spirit joins with our spirit to affirm that we are God’s children.


According to Scripture, there is no such thing as a “straight” Christian.

According to the Word, there is only one identity for Christians and that is in Jesus Christ.  When we identify by worldly ideas, we are no longer following Christ in that area of our lives.  We must constantly be comparing our ideas of what we think is good with what the Bible says is good.  Our wants, feelings, and preferences cause us to read, interpret, and ignore the Word in order to try and validate what we hope & desire to be true.  This is not the character of a Christ follower and it will ultimately lead us away from Jesus.


CHRIST FOLLOWERS IDENTIFY IN CHRIST,
NOT IN OUR FEELINGS & PREFERENCES


So, what does this have to do with the tension that is within Christian culture in regard to sexual expression?

Please continue on, I know this is tough stuff.  I do not like what you are about to read, because the below statements go against my ego.  Regardless of all the evidence pointing to Christ, I don’t naturally want to follow Christ or follow anyone for that matter.  I want to be my own boss in everything, including what I do with my time, skills, money, and sexual expression.

In spite of my feelings and preferences:

  1. I am a follower of Christ because the Bible is true, all reason, logic, and science affirm the authenticity of the Bible, I have witnessed miracles, and I have had deeply spiritual experiences with the person of Jesus.
  2. I have chosen to marry one person of the opposite sex because it is the most truthful & Biblical way to express sexuality.

These two claims are not what I would naturally say.  Part of me is constantly at war with another part of me and choosing to follow Christ is a battle.  The words of Paul in Romans 7 explain it best.


My LGBTQIA friends who claim to be Christian don’t take issue with the first point.  Yet, the second point is usually met with objections.


OBJECTION #1: We cannot choose to be gay or straight.
Many of my friends have quickly discounted the idea of having chosen to be gay.  In fact, many have said they cannot choose which gender they are attracted to because they were born gay.

This claim may or may no be true, but let’s take a moment to explore it through genetics and psychology.

Genetics – The human body is amazingly complex, and many of our traits are expressions of the genes encoded within our DNA.  Some folks have proposed that people are born gay because of their genetic programming.  The claim is that, no matter what, they are going to be gay because they have a “Gay Gene” in their DNA.  Yet, the Human Genome Project has mapped the entire sequence of human DNA of which, the proposed “Gay Gene” has yet to be found.

Ironically, even if a “Gay Gene” did exist; we would have to assume their is also a “Straight Gene.”  How would the “Gay Gene” be passed down?  Given that offspring are the result of sexual reproduction, how would the proposed “Gay Gene” continue to exist?  An overwhelming majority of the LGBTQIA Community have straight parents, of whom would logically not be carrying the proposed “Gay Gene,” but would be carrying the proposed “Straight Gene.”

Another scenario in support of being born gay due to genetics could be mutation.  In some instances, a new and random re-arrangement of a gene occurs.  In the process of replication, one or more genes can be transposed incorrectly which rewrites the genetic sequence.  These genetic errors express themselves much differently than their error free counterparts.

Perhaps, if geneticists were to someday find a “Gay Gene,” it could be explained to have arisen due to a mutation.  Yet, the argument of a “Gay Gene” arising due to a genetic error is not in favor of those using it.  Beside the fact that geneticists have only identified deleterious mutations, how would a mutated “Gay Gene” be passed down?

The idea of specific genes determining sexual orientation seems to be scientifically invalid.

Psychology – We understand the sexual differences between men and women, and studies have affirmed these differences.  No surprise, most men have higher sex drives than women.  Therefore, heterosexual monogamy is in direct conflict with the fact that men desire sex more often than women.  So, why are the majority of men choosing to be in monogamous relationships with women?

If there were no negative effects of being a lifelong playboy, monogamy rates would be presumably lower.  I think, like me, other men choose to deny their sexual desire of playing the field in order to reap the benefits of heterosexual monogamy… but also to avoid the negative effects of broken hearts and acquiring disease by playing the field.

Yes, my faith in Christ is a major reason why I chose to walk away from my sexual desire of being a playboy, but it is not the only reason.  I chose to express my sexuality as a monogamous, heterosexual man because of the benefits.

  • I never worry about STDs
  • I never worry about unwanted pregnancy.
  • It is wonderful to grow old with my wife who knows me deeply.
  • There are many beautiful things about my wife’s woman sensibilities that complement my male behavior.
  • It is beautiful to look at my children and see genetic echo-ings of not only my wife and I, but the traits of grand-parents and great-grand-parents.

I could have chosen to chase desires, but I chose what is most beneficial.  Was it tough to give up my sexual desires and commit to something other?  Yes, but the benefits of what I have chosen with my sexuality outweigh any other possible sexual expression.

My sexual expression is a choice, and this seems to be objectively true for all people.

Yes, it is a bold statement for me to say that we choose our own sexual expression.

Of course, this statement is false for victims of rape and sexual abuse in the moment.  Yet, later in life, the victims of rape and sexual abuse will make conscious decisions on what their sexual expressions will be.  Or perhaps, like others, they may choose to abstain from sexual expression altogether.

Across the centuries, countless men and women of deep conviction to something higher than themselves have chosen to be celibate.

The desire to engage in sexual practice in order to procreate is a biological factor that is empirically supported to be “born with,” aka acquired in utero.  Yet, many people have chosen a non-sexual lifestyle that is non-reflective of their biological, sexual desires.  We know these people are not anomalies who lack sexual desire.  People who choose celibacy have real sexual desires and we know this to be true for inconsistencies and sexual scandals arise frequently.  It is quite clear that those who are celibate have chosen a lifestyle that is non-reflective of their sexual feelings, preferences, and desires.

Our sexual feelings, preferences, and desires may be oriented toward gay, straight, bisexual, poly-amorous, or celibate lives.  However, it is plain to see that we all have the ability to choose how we express our own sexuality.


OBJECTION #2: Jesus never talked about homosexuality.

True, Jesus never talked about homosexuality and never gave a reprimand to those who engaged in same sex expression.  So, what does this mean for the Church today?  What does this mean for Christians that might self-identify as LGBTQIA?

Jesus taught his disciples and the multitudes on many topics, but there were many other topics he never covered.  So, how do we Christians engage the things Jesus never addressed?

If Jesus never specifically addressed a topic, the last thing we should do as Christians is to live out that issue the way we see fit.

Yes, Jesus is silent on the modern understanding of LGBTQIA topics, but he was very clear on sexual expression.  Jesus acknowledges that sex is powerful and knows that it has a very strong effect on our decision making.  In fact, he says that if someone can live without sex, they should.  He calls his followers to a life that ignores sexual expression and to live as if they don’t even have genitalia.

Matthew 19:11-12 New International Version (NIV)
“Not everyone can accept this word, but only those to whom it has been given. For there are eunuchs who were born that way, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others—and there are those who choose to live like eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who can accept this should accept it.”

Essentially, Jesus is saying that if you are able to deny sexual expression for the sake of the Kingdom of God, a Christ follower should choose to do so.  Wow!

But, what if I can’t deny my desire for sex?

That’s OK.  Jesus is clear in saying that being celibate is not for everyone.  Yet, he does not give license to unlimited indulgence of sexual expression to those who are not able to be celibate.

Jesus spoke of sex in a Biblical way when he quoted Genesis.  He was affirming that two people are joined together, becoming one flesh, and that they should never separate.

Matthew 19:4-6 New International Version (NIV)
“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

Sex was designed by Jesus and given to us for unity and reproduction with only one other person in marriage.  Many parts of the Bible affirm Jesus’s teaching on sex and marriage, like the book of Malachi.

Malachi 2:15-16 New International Version (NIV)
Has not the one God made you? You belong to him in body and spirit. And what does the one God seek? Godly offspring. So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful to the wife of your youth.

“The man who hates and divorces his wife,” says the Lord, the God of Israel, “does violence to the one he should protect,” says the Lord Almighty.

So be on your guard, and do not be unfaithful.


CONCLUSION

I love my friends I don’t agree with.  I enjoy our conversations and am glad that we continue to hangout in spite of our differences.  There are many things we will never agree upon, but I hope we can always be friends.

Sexual expression is very important to all of us, and it is very important to Jesus as well.

Jesus came to save everyone, because he loves everyone.  Yet, he is clear in that his way is the only way, not our way.

As followers of Christ, we are called to be a reflection of Christ.  We must choose his authority as the standard for our lives regardless of what we want, desire, or prefer.

According to Jesus, we must deny our personal sexual feelings and preferences.  We must be obedient and conform our sexual expression to his standard.

Of course, if you are not a follower of Christ and you choose your own way of expressing yourself sexually, I hope you don’t feel animosity from me.  I hope we can still be friends, and I hope someday you will follow Jesus.

If you self-identify as an LGBTQIA Christian or you are a playboy/playgirl Christian, I also hope you feel no animosity from me… and I hope we can still be friends.  It’s Christ way for Christ followers.

With that said, I am far from perfect and my desires, wants, and preferences constantly supersede my obedience to Jesus.  I am a broken person and am by no means free from hypocrisy.  I need to mature and grow in the likeness of Christ just like anyone else.  So, please correct me if I twist the truth or try to celebrate/normalize my un-Jesus-like character.

Will you still be my friend?

Can we still have reasonable discourse even if we don’t agree?
I hope so.

Much love & Godspeed,

William

6 thoughts on “What does it mean to be a “straight” Christian?”

  1. Hi Willie! Just finished reading the post on sexuality and I have to say that me and my family are so happy you have chosen to follow and emulate Jesus!

    I love that you are tackling this issue and doing so with grace and truth. It is a complex subject for sure and it touches most of our lives in some way.

    Your post contributes to the conversation of homosexuality and Christianity in a unique way, stimulating thought for the reader both believer and non-believer.

    I am imagining you have more thoughts on this subject than were actually discussed, some of which were milling around in my own mind as I read deeper.

    My step-father-in-law said to me once that homosexuality is less about sex and mostly about relationship. If I had to write about “all” of the reasons someone might be gay, it seems it could be an endless book.

    Before posting, I would check facts about birth defects and other physical abnormalities that could cause someone attraction to the same sex. I’m pretty sure I heard Dr Henry Cloud or one of his counseling partners at New Life Counseling Ministry say that a hormonal explosion can take place during a human beings initial development that has been found to be an underlying cause of homosexuality. David and I know someone that began developing homosexual feelings either their late teens or early twenties and found out they had an issue with their pituitary gland. In this case, they realized this was not a normal feeling for them and sought counseling which lead to the discovery.

    I love how the premise you wrote about this subject comes from the perspective of truth which is the foundation of this ministry. There is an author I’ve become familiar with that seems to think and present in a similar way as you and I think you would really enjoy his writings. His name is Edward T. Welch. I just finished his book, “When People are Big and God is Small”. I think reading the chapters breaking down felt needs and real needs would also correlate well with this discussion, especially if someone is trying to fill a so called need in their lives through a homosexual relationship.

    Willie, I am far better at writing my thoughts to others than articulating them verbally, I do have a few other things to say if you want to listen and maybe we could chat via phone sometime about it. No pressure, I know you have a lot going on.

    Thank you for allowing me to read this. It was a privilege.

    Blessings,
    Carrie

    1. Wow! Thank you Carrie for the loving response and for taking time to read my overly long article. 🙂

      Yes, I would be honored to hear more of what you have been thinking about when it comes to this topic.

      Thank you again!

      Much love & Godspeed,
      Willie

  2. I want to say thank you for sharing a part of your journey with me/the reader(s). I can relate to marrying your childhood friend and teenage sweetheart. It is the way we are Designed. We compliment each other as you sd better than I can.
    This article is a little lengthy. It touches on some very (potentially) complex subjects. I was very impressed at how efficiently you spoke on these subjects (God, gay gene, monogamy, ect).
    I loved the use of Scripture and sound logic.
    I think you make some very good points that need to be discussed.

    It took me longer than it should have to post a reply. I kept following other links within the article. There is so much good information here! Many valuable resources for teaching and apologetics, even for ministering to those who are struggling with this.

    Please, feel free to share your work and further projects with us on Facebook (groups)!
    God bless

    1. Thank you for the kind words Michelle!

      The struggle to keep the article short was with me as I wrote, but since this topic is so much in need of gentleness I kept writing.

      I agree the article is a bit too long, any suggestions on what to cut out?

      Thank you again!

      Sincerely & Godspeed,
      William

  3. Where do we draw the line? Should I be friends with – – –
    Fornicators (sex before marriage)? Divorcees? Adulterers? Those involved in “Open marriage” ? Polygamists ? Pedophiles ? Those involved in bestiality? What do those things all have in common?
    Sexual immorality.

    Society has changed it’s mind on a lot of those issues over cultures and time. Pedophilia has been legal . . . and an HONOR for enslaved young boys (made eunuchs for royalty’s sexual services).

    HOMOSEXUALITY HASN’T CHANGED JUST BECAUSE SOCIETY HAS.

    The same goes for what the Bible says about fornication, divorce or bestiality.

    So as a fornicator, divorcée, and adulterer who is also a believer of the Gospel of grace and peace of Jesus Christ what am I suggesting? How do we treat people?

    Live by faith. That’s it.

    But – – – won’t I do what the flesh wants and put a “faith”-directed stamp on it. Possibly. Most definitely at some time I selfishly will.
    However, the answer is not to formulate rules or guidelines as an alternative on how to act towards people.

    Romans 4:15.
    For the law works wrath, for where there is no law, neither is there disobedience. (World English Bible)

    Or an easier way to understand: New Living Translation
    For the law always brings punishment on those who try to obey it. (The only way to avoid breaking the law is to have no law to break!)

    Saying we need to live by this rule, or that law, or this guideline, or have “balance” in our lives PREVENTS YOU EVEN MORE FROM FOLLOWING GOD. It is so much EASIER to create rules or even write rules on how to follow the rules than to have a relationship with God and others. The Holy Spirit will ALWAYS call you to a HIGHER directive than any rule or law.

    There is absolute truth. But the absolute Truth is God and his Being – WHICH IS LOVE. There are more things to God’s BEING than just LOVE (later).

    Absolute Truth *IS NOT*
    Don’t Lie. Don’t marry a prostitute. Do not murder your kid. Don’t eat paper. Don’t lay in one place for hundreds of days tied up. Don’t eat food cooked over human or cow dung. Don’t name call, try to be friends with everyone, and never tell someone they are going to hell.
    John the Baptist AND Jesus did the last 3 and the Bible shows us of other people that did all of the above, at God’s direction, in FAITH. These examples were done in LOVE even though on the outside, they looked wrong and in many cases idiotic, foolish and risky because it was treason.

    Absolute Truth *IS*
    the LAW of LOVE….Love God, and your neighbor.
    On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.

    What does this LAW of love look like????
    . . . .and why can’t it be women exchanging natural sexual relations for unnatural ones and men abandoning natural relations with women being inflamed with lust for one another committing shameful acts with other men?
    I didn’t call it those things, the Bible does in Rom 1:24-27.

    Because God has made it clear what romantic-one-flesh-LOVE ******IS******
    By doing so, he doesn’t have to list EVERY possible way that it is NOT —> with a goat, or a chicken, or a child, or with a tree, or with multiple women or men.
    Whether you are a theistic evolutionist, a person that thinks the Bible is useful for allegorical stories, or a literal Bible interpreter, by stating what something IS, you CAN rule out what ISN’T.
    It is a logical fallacy to think otherwise.

    United States Secret Service has trained people who know how to spot counterfeit paper currency. They are trained by studying and spending hours on what a REAL dollar looks like. When they spot a fake they KNOW it. It is unnecessary to train them what 80,000 counterfeits look like.

    The opposite of Love is Fear. 1 John 4:18

    I am not a homophobe or a homosexual hater. I have 2 (or 3) homosexual choosing family members that I love and like very much.
    But I do think this error / sin / wrong is MORE attached to the very essence of God than other manifestations of ignoring God.

    As W.H. stated, God CREATED them male and female.
    He created them in his IMAGE. There is more beneath homosexuality than the sin of wanting your own way (manifesting itself as stealing a candy bar for example).
    Homosexuality goes against His very design.

    With regard to Jesus never addressed homosexuality directly.
    Seriously?????
    Do people SERIOUSLY try to THEOLOGICALLY use that as defense for what they want to do?
    First of all, if we were to look at what Jesus said and did in a VACUUM (as if the whole rest of the Bible is not pertinent). He DID ADDRESS IT!

    W.H. quoted it.
    Matthew 19:4-6 New International Version (NIV)
    “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female. . . . one flesh. . . . etc.
    THAT’S HOW YOU BECOME ONE FLESH! If there were another way, He would have put it forth.

    If I say, “In this brownie recipe, Bake brownie batter at 350°F for 35 minutes”. . . .
    that is the ONLY WAY it can be baked to be the brownies of THIS recipe!
    That is the BEST way to make these brownies.
    You might say well I LIKE them at 500°F for 3 hours. Those are no longer THIS DESIGN that the originator designed for these BROWNIES.
    That burnt brick is something else, not brownies.

    You can say, “well my oven is broken” (genetical defects) or I was born with this oven that only works at 500°F . It doesn’t matter. I might have compassion for you but there are two sexual choices according to Jesus’ DESIGN. Be monogamous with someone of the opposite gender, or be single.

    Jesus never addressed having a church softball team or free coffee, bagels, doughnuts (drugs. – hahah) outside the church sanctuary.
    Jesus never talked about abortion (even though infanticide was ramped in Roman culture). Jesus never talked about gratification sexually with a cat, a tree, or a snowbank.

    So what!!!

    That is why the WHOLE Bible is there for us to get to KNOW God and his design for us as His people. It is NOT A RULEBOOK.

    Just like having sex with a cat, there is nothing SUPPORTING homosexual love in the Bible but there is PLENTY showing us that is NOT God’s design. The OT, Jesus, Paul and the rest all show us what romantic love IS.

    W.H. stated, “According to the Word, there is only one identity for Christians and that is in Jesus Christ.” That whole paragraph is Right ON!

    Can you be a Christian and be practicing homosexuality? Absolutely, the same way I fornicated, committed adultery, and divorced. I wanted my way, not His best.
    Jesus’ dying on the cross is big enough for everyone’s sin. I am not some sort of magical exception. I can’t thwart or frustrate the will of God. I can’t change Him or undo His gift.
    But I didn’t CARE what his BEST was for me at that time.
    I literally thought, “I don’t know how to iron this out rightfully in my mind, I just see no other way to live than to live this way. Jesus won’t be enough to help me through. I need to do things my way. “ But I don’t think I tried to use the Bible to JUSTIFY that it was ok or right or loving.

    Which, incidentally is exactly what Adam and Eve did/said when they disobeyed God and followed Satan. Whether you believe that story really happened or was an allegory, the theme is evident:
    “My will, not yours, be done God”.

    Aleister Crowley was one of the most prominent Satanic occult leaders of the 17th and 18th century. He promoted the VERY thing that average Americans (and all of mankind) promote. The crux of his occult message was. – – – “Do what thou wilt”
    AKA –
    “Live your best life (as defined by what ever YOU think is right)”.
    “You be you”.
    “You can do what ever you put your mind to”

    God is in control of, and the DESIGNER of EVERYTHING. It is up to me to believe and accept that everyday for the BEST life. And no, it WON’T look easy and fun. It will be full of trouble according to Jesus.

    Should Christians AIM to be friends with homosexuals? Not as a rule. But if the Spirit of God is prompting you to, and also prompting you to encourage others to do so, do it ! I think it is important to know there is nothing wrong with NOT doing it because homosexuality is such a horrible thing. I can’t understand why people not only parade around like it’s ok, but then additionally try to force me to accept it’s legitimacy. What if I did that with my adultery?

    My neighbor, within VIEW of my house, sexually molested his son and daughter under 10 years old. For what ever reason he has been out of prison for the last 20 years living behind my house. Should I walk over there with my 12 year old to be friends with him? Not unless the H.Sprit struck me with a lightning bolt would I do that. But I absolutely could see why a Pastor / person would visit Jeffery Dahlmer, in prison or a pedophile and become their legitimate friend. I also can see how someone legitimately and rightfully following the Spirit of God might angrily “name call” a homosexual man a “sodomite”and NOT want to be friends with him. To that person it is like hearing the swear “G**D***it!” Or “J****C*****” in vain. It is an insult to our Lords design and being. That is the way John the Baptist behaved. Very undignified (and poorly dressed). Plus, that might be what that homosexual man NEEDS right now to repent and turn to God. Maybe he has plenty of friends and doesn’t need anyone to be “nice” to him.

    I know people will protest homosexuality is consensual with adults and it is YOUR personal choice that doesn’t hurt anyone, but there is nothing to support anywhere in the Bible that makes it right.

    Body integrity dysphoria. (BID) is a disorder characterized by a desire to be disabled or having discomfort with being able-bodied beginning in early adolescence and resulting in harmful desires to mutilate oneself. A limbed person can “identify” themselves as an amputee, and want to cut off their arms and legs surgically to feel “real” and “true to himself”.

    Why do we call that a disorder but when someone wants to cut off their genitals we call it legitimate? We call it “transgender” and say they are trapped in the wrong body?

    Doing what you want (even if it SEEMS to be consensual or not hurting anyone else) is not a valid reason for something to be God’s design.

    These things should be God directed not self directed adding the God stamp afterward calling it “Love”.

    Great article Bwiddy, and keep up the great work.
    ~Greykey

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